Letting go. Not a
concept that I come by naturally when it relates to my girls. Letting go took a step forward or should I
say a step up this past July during our family fandango around the national
parks of the southwest. The back story
of this vacation has a couple chapters to properly set the scene.
Twenty years ago I had visited the same triad of national
treasures; The Grand Canyon, Bryce Canyon and Zion National Park. Doing day backpack trips through the best of
each park with my sister. During that
trip our plans included the famous Angels Landing hike in Zion. A hike known for breath taking vistas and so
named because a one time resident of the canyon stated that only an angel could
land on the pinnacle of the rock formation.
Like many others we hiked up to the Scout’s Landing location of the
trail. This was a flat, broad location
that offered shade and some incredible views of the canyon. Also like many others we viewed the next
stage of the hike, a half mile of scrambling over the spine of the rock
outcropping with sections having chains cemented into the rock to provide a
splattering of safety, and decided the trail ended here today. This chapter of the back story closes with me
leaving Zion and that hike with a desire to concur my acrophobia and get the
iconic picture of the canyon and rock walls which inspired the parks name.
Fast forward to this past January when my oldest daughter
(13 at the time) came to me talking all about really cool hikes in Zion and
Grand Canyon. At first I was confused
since this is the same daughter that has mastered the art of complaining about
each and every national park that I’ve dragged her through. It was as if a light switch had flipped and
she was all about hiking, seeing the parks and doing the ‘iconic’ hikes. She became very proficient at finding youtube
videos showing fun loving adventurers on the trail, including the Walter’s
Wiggles switchbacks and the dreaded last half mile, including the step of faith
rock that has 1000 foot drop offs on either side of it. One particular go-pro footage (mounted above
a backpack with a top down view) accentuates the visual aspects of my
fear. After a couple weeks of non-stop, ‘Dad
look at this hike!’ I went to Jill. We had already planned on going to the gulf
coast and sitting on the white sand and not doing a thing (a very un-Steele-like
vacation). I said, ‘how often does a 13
year old show this much interest in a subject?’
This is the same daughter we often have to text to get her out of her
bedroom. So at that moment we performed
a vacation switchback and walked away from the soft breeze of the gulf and I
booked a trip through the American southwest.
That was the first of my acrophobia sleepless nights.
The sleeplessness came from the fact that six people have
fallen to their death on the Angels Landing trail. While hundreds of hikers and day tourist make
it safely to the top every day, the fact that the word ‘death’ is in the
previous sentence is an acrophobia trump card in my mind.
An additional chapter of the backstory was in March when our
Priest, Father Larry, told us the story of when he hiked the Angels landing
trail and had gotten to the Scout’s Landing.
He was debating about going on when he said he saw two teenagers coming
back from the top. As he said, ‘well,
it’s not like I could stop then’, so he proceeded to the summit and even took a
picture with his feet over the edge. Not
exactly the kind of support I was looking for when trying to talk Alex ‘off the
ledge’.
Walter's Wiggles, 21 switchbacks up to Scout's Landing |
I knew how badly Alex wanted to go to the top. While I had spent months setting lowered
expectations, I also knew what it meant to her.
She would understand not going up, but it would eat at her.
“Jill, I’m taking Alex to the top.” – couldn’t believe it
came out of my mouth.
“I want to go” Sarah quickly chimed in.
Ok, so we snacked up, watered up, packed up the walking
sticks and headed to the next stage. I
set all sorts of important rules like, if there is a chain you must have a hand
on it at all times. And the ever
important, no talking back to each other.
It wasn’t long before we were at the slanted rock making our
way through the chain section. The chain
was heavy, with large links and at times was tight up against the rock face. With each grab of the chain knuckles were
scraped against the rock. We climbed not
looking down to the right, which just seemed to fall off into the desert abyss
below. With Sarah’s size, her feet
didn’t quiet reach the natural location for a foothold while holding onto the
chain. This led to tentative movements
and slower progress. Occasionally I was
coaching her on best path and saying when ‘butt-slides’ where appropriate
hiking technique. The lack of speed of
our progress seemed to be emphasized by additional hikers now around us.
To sum it up, this section of the hike was likely around 50 yards
in length. My fear of heights was
accentuated due to watching out for the two of them. By the time this part of the hike was done, I
knew a decision had to be made. I
couldn’t go forward. I had to invoke Plan
B.
The six months of late night planning in my head then went
into motion. I thought this very
scenario might occur so I had developed alternatives to get Alex to her
goal. Going it alone was last on the
Plan B options and wasn’t going to be considered. So I figured I had to find a set of hikers
who would adopt her for the journey. I
put the months of sleepless nights to work and carefully developed a list of criteria for
the selection of a surrogate family.
- Had to be my age or younger
- Had to be athletic because the climb wasn’t a stroll in the park
- Had to have appropriate hiking shoes which is an easy way to sort out the hiking riffraff
- Had to have a child with them so they would understand responsibility beyond themselves
Just past the first chain section of the climb I spotted a family
that visually met every criteria. They
even commented on Alex wearing a Pirates hat.
I quickly explained our situation and made the ask. They couldn’t have been nicer and invited Alex
to join them to the top. Alex and I swapped
backpacks so she could take the camera to the top. I left Alex with a final command, “No feet
over the edge pictures!”, and the mother of the family laughed at or with me, I’m
not sure which.
I then had to put Plan B Point 2 in play. I had to break the news to Sarah that she was
going to stay with me. We battled
through a few tears at this disappointment, but overall she was very accepting
of the decision. I just felt the
scramble over rocks and with the chains and her size was going to make it
tough, especially with the increased number of hikers coming up behind us. Could she have done the hike, yes. Could she have done the hike with me staying
sane, I’m not so sure. After getting
some great pics together from this location she was ok with it. When I questioned another father, younger
than me and built like a football player, about not going up he said, ‘there is
no way – this is far enough’. I joked, ‘yep
– every 18 years I make it further on this trail.’ So Sarah quickly did the math of what age
I’ll be when she can get to the top. She
was back to her joking self.
The last half mile to the summit of Angel's Landing |
It was an hour or so before Alex and her guides made it back
to us. Alex had both a great sense of
accomplishment while looking pretty drained all at the same time. As another hiker said, from this point
forward it is more spider monkey action than hiking.
As we said goodbye and thank you to the family for returning
Alex to us, the mother looked at me and said, ‘You’re not going to want to see
the pictures!” and laughed. I looked at
Alex and said – ‘you pulled a Father Larry didn’t you?’ and she gave a simple
shrug of the shoulders and wry smile. After
getting rehydrated and some food at lunch an avalanche of stories out of her
with the same excitement that she had that January day when she first spoke of
the challenge of Angels Landing.
Letting go – sometimes it takes a Plan B.
Letting go – sometimes it takes a Plan B.
The following link is a video of our vacation
highlights. Like similar videos it’s
kind of like someone asking you to look through their vacation slides. I hope you enjoy these highlights and keep in
mind that only about 1 in 6 pictures that I took made it to the video. I’m trying to limit the number of virtual
slide trays you have to sit through.
In addition to the Angels Landing trail pictures (including an
un-authorized feet over the edge snapshot), there are pictures from the Narrows
hike up the Virgin River in Zion– one of my all-time favorites as well as all of the other stops we made on our journey.
Enjoy this road trip tour of the Southwest: https://youtu.be/uhXEWiyMqCM
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